Once Lost, Now Found!

Time and again I am appalled by what I see on television. I am even more dismayed by the fact that nothing, absolutely no amount of obscenity or lewdness seems to shock young ladies these days. Well I have lived in the same predicaments for a small period of my life and that's when God really made me see how miserably dead I was. I found my worth and value in what the media showed me...the filthy image  of beauty utterly distorted my reality and I hated myself. I found faults with almost everything that God might have boasted about, I am His creation. Though not apparent to all I was wallowing and was filled with self pity.

It brings me little shock when I see young, beautiful ladies cribbing about, loathing over their looks because what they are is far from being what is attractive in the eyes of the world, a world where only very special women who are basically 6 feet tall and weigh 45 kilos or something only they are worthy. 

Have you ever cried over your nose or over your supposedly bad bodies??? I know I have!!! I have tormented myself with faux images and all sorts of smut this world threw up on me and to compensate I flooded my mind with all those self help motivational books, you know the sorts..those "chicken soup" books with a postfix of almost every state of life, it was my personal mode of catharsis and upliftment. I don't at the least argue their good intentions but this little help that i was so addicted to, this tiny boost faded as quick as that lip gloss that claims to stay all day.
 I can't believe I considered myself worthy of counselling others at that point of time, when I  needed a lot of fixing within my own self.  At the end of the day I still hated myself. These motivational books and all sorts of gimmicks are a temporary solution that just covers the problems on the surface, just like what a concealer does to a blemish.

Nothing is comforting and no scar made on your heart by those constant, deep bruises  can heal once and for all without Jesus. Go try to accumulate as much positivity and inspiration as possible from this world...it shall all leave you in lurch in the face of a real trial. Only  the word  of God can strengthen us to fight all the deception and battles we might be faced with. Its only through Christ we can find ultimate peace and acceptance, the more you try to search your identity in the things of the world the more unsatisfied you'll be.


On the similar grounds its just distasteful,  the things happening around. 
The femininity , innocence and beauty has just died a brutal death in the hands of this carnal world. And  to be honest, we cant really blame the ones who are being mislead, women who  are so captivated by it all  are just the victims of this catastrophe, the way most of the world is heading on, being so disillusioned by the patterns of this world, its truly despicabRomans 12;2 warns us against the conformity to the world.  God's word is our light in these dark days and if you don't find yourself struggling to fit yourself according to the standards of this world, there's a grave need to check your walk in the light of the WORD because we as  followers of Jesus stand in opposition to what is being practised and preached around us. 

 “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. 19 If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. " John 15;18-19

I keep stumbling over music, films and every other tool that the enemy is powerfully using to destroy people. This vile substance is being served under the banner of entertainment.
Sisters, there is a grave need for you to guard your hearts and your eyes. Don't think that what you're seeing is doing nothing to you, it affects your whole psyche. Remember GARBAGE IN....GARBAGE OUT!!

Young, innocent girls grow up seeing these ladies as their role models and are highly bewitched by them. They follow the women who change relationships like clothes and in a marriage if they succeed to live together past 72 days, call it insane but that would draw yawns and shrugs, how disgusting!!! It's a sheer mockery of something as lovely and as pure as an institution of marriage. 

We as women should know that beauty is a virtue, worth praising but sensuality is not.  I was like all the rest, spent nights on internet browsing "how to attract him?, how to accentuate your curves while you sit? , how to make  him fall in love with you in 10 days?" seems familiar to any of you? well  to be honest none of this appeared wrong to me in my lost days but its now I can see its wastefulness and how filthy all of it can be when it only seems playful and harmless.

 I once heard that a lady's wardrobe reflects the condition of her heart and truly though these words were so convicting I just brushed 'em off. I had a hard time accepting it since I was a fashion victim myself, all I could think about was dresses, high heels, latest clothing and accessories. Don't get me wrong I don't deny the importance of grooming oneself and feeling good and all but I am talking about the dangers of being completely consumed by it. 

We need to  strive to be clothed with virtue, purity , grace and nobility first and trust me that'll reflect outside as well. Have you ever come across that moment when you're all dolled up with  those finest stilletoes  and make-up  and a lady very modestly dressed, walks past you at a shopping complex counter and you're just drawn to her simplicity, poise and elegance? In a way she puts to shame all the fashion 'can't-do-withouts'. That's exactly how God tried to teach me this principle. Inside beauty will surely radiate on the outside as well. 

I was once told by a pastor that He had to unceasingly pray for a wife for more than seven years before he found her. Most of us end up in broken relationships, hurts that they might call beyond repair. Its not at all alarming when someone who doesn't know Jesus resorts to committing suicide because of the most trivial reason. That's exactly what happens when you are not lead by the spirit of God, you don't have the mechanism to fight the mundane let alone trials.
  I had to pray for my man for a long time myself and I didn't find that amazing man until I completely surrendered my own selfish longings and gave up on my hunt and started trusting God. 

I sincerely believe it to be true when they say the type of vibrations you send out that's exactly what returns to you. If a girl is aiming on merely sexually attracting a man that's what she'll get..FORGET THE LOVE here!!!!. 

What a wrong idea is being fashioned in this world, kiss a hundred  toads before you find your prince charming. Trust me all the charm of that  kiss will be gone by the time you actually find that Prince God has made for you.  Media is exploding with examples to entice growing girls to be wild and crazy, pushing   'em to make mistakes and screw it all before they get it all right. But its just a lie to make you like them...for them sensual and bad is in, for a woman who loves Jesus its something to flee from.

 Young girls when you awaken to romantic feelings towards an opposite sex it should rather be a time to prepare yourself, it should be the time when you should stop sweating over tricks to flirt and seduce, no doubt that might turn heads and maybe charm that guy you got your eyes on  but it will just be a fleeting achievement that'll lay the foundation of a future ruin, rather do a simple thing 

First thing first and you cant do absolutely anything without this...
BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!!!!

No matter what you've done in the past or the present state of your heart...you are never too dirty or too clean to come back to  a Father who sees past all the filth in you. Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Once you got your eyes fixed on Jesus see how things start to fall into place. You'll not only have new affections but God will orchestrate events to propel you into an area of recovery and growth. He'll make you brand new!!!!

Secondly,try to surround yourself with dignified women. Start with your Bible, there are  so many women to look up to.. Esther, Hannah, Ruth, and Mary, Dorcas in the New Testament and how can we go about talking of it without mentioning Proverbs 31 lady..wow! its just breathtaking! the divine virtue, beauty, wisdom and dignity of a woman portrayed there, its just astounding.

 My beloved Sisters these are the women who should be our role models not Rihanna or Lady Gaga! What a joy it is when your man finds you a true reflection of Proverbs 31 lady, it's a compliment worth far more than those diamond rings. 


Thirdly, jot down all the characteristics you want in your future husband in a paper and pray over it daily, not just a month, not just a year but as long as it takes!! Remember, the fruit of patience is ripe! You'll be blessed with more than you ask...I know I was!!  God will literally blow your mind when it actually happens. You'll be pinching yourself to believe it everyday.

Strive to lead an example for other younger girls out there, not just by what you wear, what shoes you got or what accessories you put on but the noble, virtuous character which reflects Christ. 

Young ladies we ought to be the ones who men are PETRIFIED to get into a relationship with because if they mess up with the heart of a woman of God, they'll be in great peril. Those men when they look at you should tremble inside with a thought to pursue a  woman like you...it'll almost make them wanna take a long sabbatical and go for a reformation course before asking you out :)

And yes don't make it worse for your brothers...you can't even imagine what battle a man goes through in his mind when he is stimulated by what he sees. You can't blame men to be lusting when your own actions and of course what you're wearing is provoking them. A lot of feminist might seem to disagree but how cruel can you be?!
would you not expect a lion to attack you when you are holding a piece of meat dripping blood, would he rather say "oh no, I'm a very Christian lion I would rather starve! "  it's that serious.. be considerate towards your brothers, evaluate your actions and intentions and see if you are in anyway being a stumbling block to that brother who's looking at you.


At last don't get discouraged when you start. A believer might fall a thousand times but every time she gets up, her strength is renewed. So when you fail ask God for everything you need to carry on,  pick yourself up, shake off the dust and walk again even more determined. I fall so many times and there are occasions when I feel so ashamed to  face God again but that's a trick the enemy uses to slowly drift us away from God. Remember you are tempted the most when you are a threat!

I love you dearly my beloved sisters in Christ and I am very thankful for your time . I hope it touches and moves you and if even one of you receives help through it, my purpose is served, I would be more than delighted. I also thank the man God has put in my life, I thank Him for inspiring and motivating me to do this. You are my biggest strength besides Jesus! 
    

 Feel free to send your questions, feedback and prayer requests. i would love to pray  for  you all. 
In Christ you are richly blessed, accepted and cherished! 
Stay Beautiful :)