Monday, 1 July 2013

I'm High on the Real Thing... JESUS!!!

Back when I was a namesake, Sunday "Christian" there were times when I almost felt like  a martian chilling with a bunch of humans... I wondered if something was wrong with me. Ever tried saying "NO" to alcohol around a group of people who drink it like water? Well I have!!! And every time time my favourite excuse was: "Ahhh well, I don't mind getting a little tipsy... I just cant stand the taste!". At the back of my mind I had like a gazillion questions coiled around.

What if they'd find me less cooler? What if they'd figure out I stand out with my choices.What if they'd see I didn't belong there? And certainly, I now know, I never belonged there. Initially, I was too apprehensive to defend my stance on certain things but as I found the TRUTH, it really has set me FREE!!!

I am not here to judge those who drink, smoke or find pleasure in any kind of addiction even without realising it, but I am here just to show them "well its not okay! There is a problem and they are in bondage.”


Well, what exactly is an ADDICTION? An addiction is a continuous habit that enslaves a person on a continual basis. The addiction essentially becomes your god, why? Because you are in essence worshiping it, it controls you rather than you controlling it.

I have also come across individuals (to be honest, mostly Christians or the other know-it-all's  who  think that if they know a couple of Bible stories or some verses here and  there, that they  know Jesus) - 
how well they defend their actions by saying; "Its okay to drink, Jesus himself made booze! Didn't He turn water into wine?"  Well to them I would say that Jesus also fed five thousand and washed his disciple's feet, do they ever consider that? Scriptures are not something to be bent according to personal comforts and interest.

First of all, Jesus was by no chance performing His first miracle to send the wedding guests into a frenzy by intoxicating them with strong alcoholic drinks. The kind of wine He created was probably also served to kids in the Wedding of Cana. Many debate it was grape juice not wine but that doesn't really matter. Even if we give into believing it was wine then you better know, wines at that time were naturally fermented which had a tremendously less amount of alcohol concentration, compared to today's wine which can easily slosh you. 
I like what I once read... you'd have to literally drink the wine that Jesus made to death, to get drunk!

And one thing people who use it as a cover need to know is that, the same Word which tells us of Jesus turning water into wine also says that "the unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor 'DRUNKARDS', nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the Kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-10

Evil is good corrupted. Just like making love to one person that The Lord made for you is something so beautiful but sleeping around is evil. Just like eating a reasonable meal is good but stuffing till you puke your stomach out is gluttony. Just like enjoying all the things God created is to cherish the work of His hands but to make those very things your idol is wrong... Likewise, alcohol in moderation can't be called wrong... Drinking in itself is not bad but getting Drunk is.


So does it suggests a person who follows Jesus can drink and still go to the bars on weekends??? Ummm I highly doubt that if you ask me. Any habit that has a potential of growing into a sin should have nothing to do with us, and that applies to almost everything. The moment you become weak, it provides a soft spot that the devil will attack to bring you down.


I see it as SLACKLINING, the activity of balancing and walking on a piece of bouncy nylon rope suspended above the ground. There are chances that you will walk through without falling but the chances are pretty slim. That's how it is with sin, you can't just play around and expect to get all clean. 



It's like quicksand, once you get into it, it'll pull you in deeper no matter how hard you try to come out. 


Trust me when I say; it's one sick lie that this world can make you believe in, "Do as many mistakes as it takes to find your destiny, take wrong decisions and directions, bungle it up as much as you can 'cause you get to live only once. why play safe?"

Well to that I would say; "Sir, there would be nothing left to invest by the time you get back to the right track and if you do, you'll get so wrapped up in the chaos you won't even want to get back. We're living in, 'it's my life', 'good girl gone bad', 'the young and the hopeless' times after all. What else can we expect from the world anyway?!!!






And whoever tells you that there is nothing like good and bad, it's how you perceive it, to that I'd say; it's like finding no difference between a room filled with huge blinding lights and a dark one. Good and evil are two extreme opposites.




And with that said, sin doesn't always steps in, in its entirety. It creeps in, in the most deceiving way.


We make ourselves believe that a few drinks doesn't necessarily make me a drunkard, 2 cigarettes in a day is normal or I can't get addicted to pornography by watching a few video clips that don't even show it all. But you should very well know that sin grows like a cancer if you let it in and feed it, a few drinks will turn into a week long bender, 2 cigarettes in a day will become 2 cigarettes in an hour and how pornography can seriously damage, not just the present but the future prospects as well.

People who watch porn, fail to love their current/future spouse since it exhausts all the love within, all that remains is lust. Women don't admit but they struggle with it as much as men do, that's not all, and it wouldn't be wrong if I say that a whole lot of Pastors do too. Our flesh can never be satisfied just like sin. It keeps asking for more till it devours all of you. 

So addictions can be seen in the same light... Some might also say: "We know where and when to stop and our will power is stronger than any addiction." Well great! That's awesome, I wish all had that strength but what really happens most of the time is the opposite. If you leave a little crack in the wall unguarded, that's exactly where the devil will get in from and widen it, to completely smash down the firewall.

I know a man who intensely disliked alcohol all his life but had to resort to drinking a few sips each night because he was an insomniac and drinking helped him to get to sleep. I wish I could end it here but those few sips took a toll on him and later this 'strong willed' man became a slave to it. This is what happens most of the time.


More than half of the population indulge in drinking, drugs, smoking and/or pornography to escape their reality. They believe somehow, that they'll be able to get away with the emptiness and the hopelessness that comes with sin but it only decays them quicker. A person who knows and walks with Christ can never understand that kind of logic because every time calamity strikes that person hard, Christ is the only refuge he/she will run back to... not a pack of stress busting cigarettes.


"Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit" Ephesians 5;18.


I once met a beautiful young girl at a Christian camp some years back, she was there for all the reasons but God. I later found that she was into a habit of smoking and it came to me as a shock because she was way too young for that. Now I don't mean that there is a certain age that is appropriate to get into it but what really made me wonder was; "what could have made this fragile young mind end up here? Where are her parents? Shouldn't they be guarding her eyes and mind?"


Later, through her stories I got to know the array of events that lead her here. She was from a good family, apparently. I suspected  two things; Either her parents would be least bothered, or they'd be too rigid in their ways... both extremes can be highly dangerous. Parenting is not an easy business folks, nada!

In her case it was the latter one, her parents imposed many restrictions on her and no matter how hard she tried to make them believe, they locked her in. Parents don't have to be tyrants, children don't want shackles, they want you to lead them, to guard their minds with love and come up with a rod when you need to.

It's always seen that children of such parents become rebellious because of the lack of trust and lack of opportunities. What's held too tight always slips out.
That's what happened with this girl, she ended up doing the same things which her parents would have dreaded. They basically aimed right, they wanted to protect her but their approach was wrong. The girl was weary of the attempts she made to win their trust and in order to have her way, she became a REBEL.

I don't justify her actions either, looking for freedom she made herself a SLAVE, instead. And when I asked whether she wanted to return? She refused point blank because she was in bondage now. At an age when she would have been graciously nurtured to become a Godly woman... she got mislead.

Some take this road because they are clueless, others just follow the crowd, some are miserable victims of peer pressure and the remaining are the ones to whom it is passed down, passed down by their parents, siblings. In the majority of cases, drunkard fathers will only make their own replica... this can be miserable though.


Bottom line is, whenever we make something bigger than God, it becomes an IDOL and any form of idolatry drains us in every possible way. My spiritual partner keeps quoting:  "You can't live with one foot in the world and one out", totally!!!  An Idol doesn't necessarily mean a 'golden calf' or some 'statue of stone'. It is everything that takes the glory that only God deserves. It can be anything... For men it could be any engine, convertibles, gadgets, sexual drives, masturbation etc. For women it could be clothing, fashion, make-up etc. Or the common ones; facebook, career, relationships, sports. 


It's interesting to know how even good things can become your idol, not just the bad ones. Many people make good works their idol, good works alone CAN'T save you... people can do good works for various reasons but God seeks a person after His own heart.

"In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore, do not let sin reign your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. For sin shall no longer be your master. - Romans 6; 11-14


We are no longer partakers of sin because we serve Jesus and Him alone, the Word of God is clear about it; "No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other." - Matthew 6:24

We are called out to be the people who are so high on Jesus, so intoxicated with peace, joy, love and the fruits of the Spirit that even Bacardi 151 would seem like lemonade, ha!

Only Christ can satisfy that thirst. He's the living water and whoever drinks from Him shall never be thirsty again.

Thanks for reading, if you are someone struggling with some kind of an addiction and God is pressing upon you to break this curse and to run back to the arms of the only Saviour and you need help and want someone to talk about it, feel free to write to me. 
My email address is: singh.niharika421@gmail.com

Stay blessed,

Remember Christ did not come to judge and condemn, but to save!!!

Monday, 10 June 2013

Three Months of Eternity Together - A Letter to My Future Husband!!





I look back to the time I mentioned the things I wanted in my future husband and of how my friends smirked and laughed at it. They believed 
that I would end up heartbroken or even worse 'SINGLE FOREVER'. 

I had this huge list of characteristics that I wanted in my man at the back of my sociology notebook, but I had to seriously reconsider that after getting saved.
With new affections and a changed heart there was a need for a new list altogether and the first thing I wrote down then was..... " A man who has an intimate relationship with Jesus... A man who knows my heavenly Father".

To be honest I couldn't move past that point. The previous list was overwhelmingly exploding with things that fascinated my eyes; 6'1, dread locks :p , blue eyes, drove a Harley or something. But now all I could think about was a man of God who could lead me with strong hands - NOT A BOY!!! 

I started dreading the boys who were all about iphones, cars or Pearl Jam for that matter.
 I saw my great limitations and weaknesses and all I could do was...  fix my eyes unto Jesus knowing that everything else would fall into place if I delighted myself in Him and things He wanted me to do first.I don't boast about any of this to bring credit to me or any other person for that sake but may God and His will be glorified and like I truly believe and say,when it happens according to His appointed timing it'll leave you astounded!


Well, In that moment of surrender and quietness when Satan would have tempted me to believe that I was such a desperate loner, a simpering piece of self loath and pity, God was actually preparing me for something bigger.
 And then 'this man' came along, in ways I could have least expected. 
I took two days to actually recover from the shock of confirmation...It was kinda dramatic for me and I had to shut my self up for hours to discern God's will and after wrestling in prayer with all those doubts and insecurities I carried from  ages, all I was left with was, a tremendous assurance and a sense of peace that this world can't give me. Yes! God works in mysterious ways, who could deny that?!!


I was always irresistibly charmed by all those fairy tales and love songs andsince I'm a bit old school, Pride and Prejudice was my thing but trust me, they or even the best the world could offer appears so corny and trite when compared to a relationship that is built on Christ... they lack the most essential thing without which everything is in vain. 
Just like a pack of cards in a hurricane...like a sand castle, even worse!!!!!


 Christ is our solid rock, no relationship can possibly exist without Him....so stop foolin' around! The first and the most important thing is to honour God through any relationship, that's what makes it so beautiful and actually stand the test of time. God fills while everything else drains! Not just the bad things even the good things for that sake, if you don't make God a part of it...it will wither and ultimately drain you.
And I am thankful God made me wait rather than screwing it up by leaning on my own stubborn ways and now as we complete our third month which almost seems like eternity together
 this one goes out for you....


A little letter for my future husband... the man God picked for me!




Dear Kyle

I thank you for the man you are and everything God has made you to be. 
You truly bereft me of words.
I thank God for the wisdom and understanding He has blessed you with. 

I'm thankful for your gentle spirit that lives for Jesus and your ways 
and thoughts that strive to please Him daily.
How you inspire me to be like Him more and more each day by living as an example. 
Your heart that is so filled with goodness and love for me and for others.

Your sensibility on matters of finance and just knowing how organised 
and focused you are amazes me.
 I thank you for the immense love you bestow upon me at all times,
 for your words that encourage and lifts 
up my spirit.

I love the way you keep asking for my opinions on your business matters even though I might be the least qualified person to be doing so. 
You treat me with so much dignity, more than I can ever deserve.

I truly love all your poetries and work of art for me and like I say even
Shakespeare's stuff is just so prosaic in front of what my man does (you are my shakesloo).
 You truly take my breath away when you go all out of the way to do things to please me. 
Your kindness and generosity, your strength and humility blesses me 
inside and out.

The way you melt my heart when you tell me you love me with a twinkle 
in your eyes and a conviction in your voice... LIKE 40 TIMES A DAY!!!!!
The way you compare me with random animals I don't even know exist.

The way you delight in my spiritual maturity and teach me biblical truths, 
never hold back reproof and the way you're patient and forgiving. 
The way you love everything I love no matter how insignificant it might be
 (and that includes Pink)! 

How you respect me and never try to match me up with what the world considers good.
 How you so magnificently hide all my flaws and scars in your love and admiration, making all my shortcomings powerless to me as well. 
How you praise me and tell me I'm beautiful when I'm probably in my worst... 
The way you call me Proverbs 31 lady and though I might fall short of 
the grace and virtue you help me strive to be one daily. 
How we make a perfect team together: You, Me and most importantly 
       Christ at the centre of it...ahh YES!!

How we pull off our cool lingo and how we can never grow out of 
Biltong and Po-ha! (Ha-ha)
 How you keep asking me to eat more. How we pray together. 

How you call me an onion and how I love your morning eyes!

How perfectly God has created you for me that if He asks me to change 
anything about you... 
I would rather ask Him to reverse it and change me instead 
because I can never be good enough to deserve you.

I truly love you more than words could tell.
You bless my spirit and complete me!
And all I wanna say is “THANK YOU”

Your future wife

Friday, 24 May 2013

Once Lost, Now Found!



Time and again I am appalled by what I see on television. I am even more dismayed by the fact that nothing, absolutely no amount of obscenity or lewdness seems to shock young ladies these days. Well I have lived in the same predicaments for a small period of my life and that's when God really made me see how miserably dead I was. I found my worth and value in what the media showed me...the filthy image  of beauty utterly distorted my reality and I hated myself. I found faults with almost everything that God might have boasted about, I am His creation. Though not apparent to all I was wallowing and was filled with self pity.

It brings me little shock when I see young, beautiful ladies cribbing about, loathing over their looks because what they are is far from being what is attractive in the eyes of the world, a world where only very special women who are basically 6 feet tall and weigh 45 kilos or something only they are worthy. 

Have you ever cried over your nose or over your supposedly bad bodies??? I know I have!!! I have tormented myself with faux images and all sorts of smut this world threw up on me and to compensate I flooded my mind with all those self help motivational books, you know the sorts..those "chicken soup" books with a postfix of almost every state of life, it was my personal mode of catharsis and upliftment. I don't at the least argue their good intentions but this little help that i was so addicted to, this tiny boost faded as quick as that lip gloss that claims to stay all day.
 I can't believe I considered myself worthy of counselling others at that point of time, when I  needed a lot of fixing within my own self.  At the end of the day I still hated myself. These motivational books and all sorts of gimmicks are a temporary solution that just covers the problems on the surface, just like what a concealer does to a blemish.

Nothing is comforting and no scar made on your heart by those constant, deep bruises  can heal once and for all without Jesus. Go try to accumulate as much positivity and inspiration as possible from this world...it shall all leave you in lurch in the face of a real trial. Only  the word  of God can strengthen us to fight all the deception and battles we might be faced with. Its only through Christ we can find ultimate peace and acceptance, the more you try to search your identity in the things of the world the more unsatisfied you'll be.


On the similar grounds its just distasteful,  the things happening around. 
The femininity , innocence and beauty has just died a brutal death in the hands of this carnal world. And  to be honest, we cant really blame the ones who are being mislead, women who  are so captivated by it all  are just the victims of this catastrophe, the way most of the world is heading on, being so disillusioned by the patterns of this world, its truly despicabRomans 12;2 warns us against the conformity to the world.  God's word is our light in these dark days and if you don't find yourself struggling to fit yourself according to the standards of this world, there's a grave need to check your walk in the light of the WORD because we as  followers of Jesus stand in opposition to what is being practised and preached around us. 

 “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. 19 If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. " John 15;18-19

I keep stumbling over music, films and every other tool that the enemy is powerfully using to destroy people. This vile substance is being served under the banner of entertainment.
Sisters, there is a grave need for you to guard your hearts and your eyes. Don't think that what you're seeing is doing nothing to you, it affects your whole psyche. Remember GARBAGE IN....GARBAGE OUT!!

Young, innocent girls grow up seeing these ladies as their role models and are highly bewitched by them. They follow the women who change relationships like clothes and in a marriage if they succeed to live together past 72 days, call it insane but that would draw yawns and shrugs, how disgusting!!! It's a sheer mockery of something as lovely and as pure as an institution of marriage. 

We as women should know that beauty is a virtue, worth praising but sensuality is not.  I was like all the rest, spent nights on internet browsing "how to attract him?, how to accentuate your curves while you sit? , how to make  him fall in love with you in 10 days?" seems familiar to any of you? well  to be honest none of this appeared wrong to me in my lost days but its now I can see its wastefulness and how filthy all of it can be when it only seems playful and harmless.

 I once heard that a lady's wardrobe reflects the condition of her heart and truly though these words were so convicting I just brushed 'em off. I had a hard time accepting it since I was a fashion victim myself, all I could think about was dresses, high heels, latest clothing and accessories. Don't get me wrong I don't deny the importance of grooming oneself and feeling good and all but I am talking about the dangers of being completely consumed by it. 

We need to  strive to be clothed with virtue, purity , grace and nobility first and trust me that'll reflect outside as well. Have you ever come across that moment when you're all dolled up with  those finest stilletoes  and make-up  and a lady very modestly dressed, walks past you at a shopping complex counter and you're just drawn to her simplicity, poise and elegance? In a way she puts to shame all the fashion 'can't-do-withouts'. That's exactly how God tried to teach me this principle. Inside beauty will surely radiate on the outside as well. 

I was once told by a pastor that He had to unceasingly pray for a wife for more than seven years before he found her. Most of us end up in broken relationships, hurts that they might call beyond repair. Its not at all alarming when someone who doesn't know Jesus resorts to committing suicide because of the most trivial reason. That's exactly what happens when you are not lead by the spirit of God, you don't have the mechanism to fight the mundane let alone trials.
  I had to pray for my man for a long time myself and I didn't find that amazing man until I completely surrendered my own selfish longings and gave up on my hunt and started trusting God. 

I sincerely believe it to be true when they say the type of vibrations you send out that's exactly what returns to you. If a girl is aiming on merely sexually attracting a man that's what she'll get..FORGET THE LOVE here!!!!. 

What a wrong idea is being fashioned in this world, kiss a hundred  toads before you find your prince charming. Trust me all the charm of that  kiss will be gone by the time you actually find that Prince God has made for you.  Media is exploding with examples to entice growing girls to be wild and crazy, pushing   'em to make mistakes and screw it all before they get it all right. But its just a lie to make you like them...for them sensual and bad is in, for a woman who loves Jesus its something to flee from.

 Young girls when you awaken to romantic feelings towards an opposite sex it should rather be a time to prepare yourself, it should be the time when you should stop sweating over tricks to flirt and seduce, no doubt that might turn heads and maybe charm that guy you got your eyes on  but it will just be a fleeting achievement that'll lay the foundation of a future ruin, rather do a simple thing 

First thing first and you cant do absolutely anything without this...
BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!!!!

No matter what you've done in the past or the present state of your heart...you are never too dirty or too clean to come back to  a Father who sees past all the filth in you. Delight yourself in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Once you got your eyes fixed on Jesus see how things start to fall into place. You'll not only have new affections but God will orchestrate events to propel you into an area of recovery and growth. He'll make you brand new!!!!

Secondly,try to surround yourself with dignified women. Start with your Bible, there are  so many women to look up to.. Esther, Hannah, Ruth, and Mary, Dorcas in the New Testament and how can we go about talking of it without mentioning Proverbs 31 lady..wow! its just breathtaking! the divine virtue, beauty, wisdom and dignity of a woman portrayed there, its just astounding.

 My beloved Sisters these are the women who should be our role models not Rihanna or Lady Gaga! What a joy it is when your man finds you a true reflection of Proverbs 31 lady, it's a compliment worth far more than those diamond rings. 


Thirdly, jot down all the characteristics you want in your future husband in a paper and pray over it daily, not just a month, not just a year but as long as it takes!! Remember, the fruit of patience is ripe! You'll be blessed with more than you ask...I know I was!!  God will literally blow your mind when it actually happens. You'll be pinching yourself to believe it everyday.

Strive to lead an example for other younger girls out there, not just by what you wear, what shoes you got or what accessories you put on but the noble, virtuous character which reflects Christ. 

Young ladies we ought to be the ones who men are PETRIFIED to get into a relationship with because if they mess up with the heart of a woman of God, they'll be in great peril. Those men when they look at you should tremble inside with a thought to pursue a  woman like you...it'll almost make them wanna take a long sabbatical and go for a reformation course before asking you out :)

And yes don't make it worse for your brothers...you can't even imagine what battle a man goes through in his mind when he is stimulated by what he sees. You can't blame men to be lusting when your own actions and of course what you're wearing is provoking them. A lot of feminist might seem to disagree but how cruel can you be?!
would you not expect a lion to attack you when you are holding a piece of meat dripping blood, would he rather say "oh no, I'm a very Christian lion I would rather starve! "  it's that serious.. be considerate towards your brothers, evaluate your actions and intentions and see if you are in anyway being a stumbling block to that brother who's looking at you.


At last don't get discouraged when you start. A believer might fall a thousand times but every time she gets up, her strength is renewed. So when you fail ask God for everything you need to carry on,  pick yourself up, shake off the dust and walk again even more determined. I fall so many times and there are occasions when I feel so ashamed to  face God again but that's a trick the enemy uses to slowly drift us away from God. Remember you are tempted the most when you are a threat!

I love you dearly my beloved sisters in Christ and I am very thankful for your time . I hope it touches and moves you and if even one of you receives help through it, my purpose is served, I would be more than delighted. I also thank the man God has put in my life, I thank Him for inspiring and motivating me to do this. You are my biggest strength besides Jesus! 
    

 Feel free to send your questions, feedback and prayer requests. i would love to pray  for  you all. 
In Christ you are richly blessed, accepted and cherished! 
Stay Beautiful :)